In our house, we’re getting ready for competition season in gymnastics to begin this weekend. My daughter is a USAG level 7 gymnast with some pretty ambitious goals and it takes a lot of the family’s time and focus.
But recently my daughter was convinced she needed to quit gymnastics (after seven years and thousands of hours in the gym). Her coach and I were asking her why and she told us:
She didn’t feel like she was doing well and didn’t feel successful.
She’d had some setbacks (injuries) and was finding it hard to recover.
It felt like it was taking forever to improve.
Her coach just looked at her and flat-out said, “You’re too good to quit. I need you on my team.”
After that, the coach began asking questions. What do you feel like you’re not doing well? What’s your definition of being “successful”?
My daughter felt like she should be coming in first place in every event at every meet. She’s had her share of medals, but nobody can win ‘em all. Her coach asked her if maybe she could reframe her definition of success, and together they came up with a more workable definition.
The coach helped her see that it’s normal for recovery from setbacks to take time and be painful; and also reminded her that gymnastics is a sport that takes years to learn; that slow progress is the only way; and that nobody ever really masters it.
My daughter came up with some new goals and embraced a more realistic view of the time and effort her sport requires. She decided to go back to basics — to focus on having fun, and to be consistently improving.
She decided not to quit.
Have you had those moments when you felt like you weren’t successful enough to continue? When you were frustrated at how long it’s taking? When the setbacks (rejections) felt so painful you just didn’t know if you could keep going?
Have you ever felt like quitting?
What made you continue?
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